The Magic of Love! Part 1

There was this young intelligent man who was a great worshipper in one of the prominent churches in US; married to one woman and blessed with four children. when he stood, raised his hand to call upon the spirit of God to reign; heavens opened as never before, angels came down to join the choir down on earth to praise the Living God. People in church got swept away in tongues singing and praying in an extraordinary way, healing took course, restoration covered church and the power of God moved like wild fire in His people in His manifestation.

One day the spirit of God convicted him to confess to the wife the true him and Yes, He confidently tells her that he had been having an immoral relationship with one of her friends which had been on for four complete years. Confusion, disappointment, anger and name it all covered the woman’s heart, face, mind and body. she only could propose that they run to their Senior Pastor for help. Arriving at the pastor’s premises, the woman looked as though she’d been crying for a week. while the man looked as though he had been wired to the undercarriage of the car during their eight-hour trip on the freeway. He was just wracked with shame.

With a repentant spirit, they narrated their story as the Pastor and the wife listened to them for a few minutes. The man did his best to let them know what an evil scumbag he was. “See, you’ve got to understand, I knew better. I totally knew better. I knew what I was doing. I was hiding it. There’s a war inside of me and I’ve had this problem my whole life. Eighteen years ago when we got married and she was pregnant with our first child, I committed adultery with her best friend then too.” He continued to attempt to convince the Pastor that he deserved to be punished.

To help this couple, the Pastor decides to use questions to dig out the exact problem.

Pastor…….what is your problem? The man looked on as he wondered whether the Pastor was attentive as he narrated his shameful story.

“What’s the problem? Didn’t you know this was a bad idea?” the Pastor asked. “Yes,” he replied.

Didn’t you know that whenever your wife or your pastor found out about this, it was going to end up badly?”

“Yes”, he replied.

“What is the problem that would drive a man to do such destructive stuff to his family, to his life, to the church he
loves, and to his peace with God? What would make a man get there? What’s the problem?”

I don’t know,” he responded dejectedly.

Realising that the problem was hard to define, the Pastor decides to ask him a different question….

What is your connection with your wife?” He asked, knowing that it was unlikely that he had much of a connection. Adultery is usually a symptom that a couple struggles to be intimate with each other.

“We don’t have one, or much of one,” he responded sadly.

“What is your wife’s love language?” Pastor asked.

The Pastor wanted to see if he knew how to love his wife.

“Encouraging words,” he said, looking up at her.

His wife, sobbing, said, “In eighteen years he has hardly ever told me he loves me.”

Finally something is coming out.
Remember, this man had been leading their ministry into great, anointed places. Their church had grown dramatically over the previous few years, and was vibrant with life under this man’s leadership.

So the Pastor says , “Your wife feels loved when you adore her through words, and you can’t squeak out an ‘I love you’ toward her.

Meanwhile she watches you lead the masses in singing ‘I love you’ to God. Is that what you are telling me?”

The man is in total silence now, covered by a dark cloud of shame.

The Pastor goes deeper into this problem, You lead people in the adoration and passionate pursuit of God’s heart. You write songs that express this amazing passion and love for God. But you do not point any of this strength toward your wife.

How about your kids?” “I can’t tell anybody that I love them, not even my kids,” he said through tears. “I’ve turned out just like my father. My father cannot express love to anyone either.”…………………..to cut the long story short, the Pastor invited him to walk through a few minutes of forgiving his father. After he did that, wham! He turned to his wife and said with complete sincerity, “I love you so much. I am so sorry!”

What do you learn from this…..?